Prostitution: Being Raped for a Living
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Posted on Oct 25, 2015
By Chris Hedges
Rachel Moran, author of "Paid For: My Journey Through Prostitution,"
discusses her book and experience as a former prostitute in an interview
with Truthdig columnist Chris Hedges for "Days of Revolt" on teleSUR
English. (teleSUR English via therealnews.com)
This column includes material from Chris Hedges' interview of Rachel Moran
on teleSUR's "Days of Revolt," presented via therealnews.com. Prostitution
abolition activist Moran is a former prostitute and a writer, blogger and
founding member of SPACE International, an organization for survivors of
prostitution. To see a video of the interview and to read a text of the
exchange, click here.
BALTIMORE-The reduction of another human being to an object and the
glorification of male violence, whether in war or prostitution, are
romanticized by popular culture. It is difficult to challenge the lies
disseminated about "sex work" and "military virtues." Those who counter the
dominant narrative, even if they speak from long personal experience, are
drowned out. Speaking the truth about war or the truth about prostitution is
lonely and often futile.
Rachel Moran, who was a prostituted woman in Ireland for seven years, has
done in her book "Paid For: My Journey Through Prostitution" what I
attempted to do in my book "War Is a Force That Gives Us Meaning," about the
reality of war. And she has endured very similar responses. Women and girls
who are being prostituted-like war correspondents and soldiers addicted to
the rush of battle, the hypermasculinity and the adrenaline highs that come
with war-have often dismissed her, unable to examine the darkness and
tragedy of their own lives. Mass culture has largely shut out her and others
who speak the truth about prostitution, just as it shuts out those who speak
the truth about war. The manufactured illusion of heroes or glamorous call
girls plays to a culture that celebrates the commodification of human
beings. Those who have escaped the clutches of prostitution or war, often
struggling to cope with trauma, guilt and shame, are reticent to resurrect
in public the nightmare that will hound them for the rest of their lives.
"People who depict prostitution as glamorous usually view prostitutes
against the backdrop of expensive hotel foyers," Moran wrote in her book.
"They imagine prostitutes as entering or leaving five-star hotels, wearing
sharp designer suits and high heels, and the look set off with vivid red
lipstick. I've walked into more hotels more times than I could count,
wearing sharp suits, high heels, and every shade of lipstick. None of that
changed what was going on in my heart or in my mind, and none of it made any
difference to the bodily experience involved here. None of it was of any
practical benefit to my mouth, breasts, or vagina. What was going on was the
very same thing that was going on when I was lifting my skirt in the
backstreet alley. The nature of prostitution does not change with its
surrounds. It does not morph into something else because your ass is rubbing
against white linen as opposed to roughed concrete."
When we spoke in Baltimore she told me, "The reality is, if I had a gun to
my head right now and the life of someone I really loved was hanging in the
balance and I had ... to go back into prostitution for one more day, there's
only one place I would go, and that would be the streets. In street-based
prostitution, you have some level of control-not much, but some. You can
gauge by the look in a person's eye, which is actually the best place you
can look if you want to know whether somebody has the intention to hurt you,
whether you're getting any kind of, as we say in Ireland, bogie vibes. If a
man has it in them to want to cause you extreme harm, you can gauge all that
by the physical nature of being close to them and looking them in the face.
You can't use your faculties in that same way down a phone line. You can't
assess a man in indoor prostitution, regardless whether it's in a brothel or
massage parlor or a hotel room. You can't do that until you're alone with
them in the room. And what people don't understand is that that places you
in a much-obviously, I would have thought-more dangerous situation. And
studies have shown that [in] indoor prostitution . violence occurs more
frequently. And that was my experience."
She blasts the notion that prostitution is in any way a form of sex. "The
nature of sex is mutuality," she said. "And where you don't have mutuality,
you have sexual abuse."
Moran preferred catering to those with fetishes and "sexual perversions" to
escape "being raped for a living" by heterosexual men.
Some men "wanted to dress up as women or as puppy dogs-believe me, that
happens," she said. "I had a regular client [who wanted to be a poodle, and
I] used to walk him around the apartment. There was a whole array of men
with the most bizarre turn-ons. And I used to deal with those men. I found
it so much easier than dealing with men who wanted to just use my body like
it was ... a kind of blowup doll that they'd bought out of a sex shop."
The war industry, like the prostitution industry, feeds off the despair,
poverty and hopelessness that afflict the lives of many of the young,
especially young men and women of color. In a world of closed doors and few
opportunities, the military, like prostitution, appears to offer a way out.
Military recruiters are little more than uniformed human traffickers,
targeting the vulnerable, making promises that are usually never kept and
handing out cash payments to the desperate. Once they have their prey
trapped, like all pimps and traffickers, they force them into a life that
bears no resemblace to the fantasy they peddled.
"That was a very, very painful book to write," Moran said of "Paid For: My
Journey Through Prostitution," "because it necessitated my having to revisit
all of those painful places with no armor and look at what it was that
happened to us and why."
Moran, like many other girls and women forced into prostituion, was
desperate and homeless. Her home life, dominated by mentally unstable
parents who raised her and her siblings in crippling poverty, had been a
disaster. And the state, preoccupied with imposing austerity and budget
cuts, had abandoned her. She started working the streets when she was a
child of 15. And she soon discovered that announcing her age to her clients
was useful because "they get off faster and I got out of the car faster."
"I was in indoor prostitution for quite a few years, and for every 10 times
that phone rang, eight or nine times you would be asked, 'How old is the
youngest girl on today?' It was always that, the youngest girl, the youngest
girl, the youngest girl. Never stopped. And it was a particularly creepy
question to have to listen to, because I usually was the youngest girl. So
it was me they were talking about," she said.
"I have never seen anyone come to prostitution out of a circumstance that
wasn't in some way, shape, or form negative," she told me.
She scoffs at the idea that prostitution offers girls and women a "choice,"
since as she wrote "it is others who use the bodies of prostituted women as
they so choose. That is the intention and the purpose and the function of
prostitution." Prostituted women have no real freedom of choice, and even
less control over their bodies than do Marine Corps recruits on Parris
Island. Once you sign on for war or prostitution you become someone else's
property. Fear becomes your dominant emotion. "If anything is more pervasive
than violence itself it is the threat of it," Moran writes of being
prostituted. To endure war or prostitution it is better not to think or
feel. Spend long enough in war or prostitution and you will, as Moran and I
eventually did, become numb, dominated by paranoia and deeply distrustful.
You lash out, sometimes physically, at whatever or whomever you perceive to
be a threat. You become a hunted animal. You divide the world between
predators and prey.
"You have to dissociate," Moran said. "You have to split yourself off from
the reality of what's currently happening. If you are having your body used
by- ... it was up to 10 men a day when I was on the streets-you've got to be
able to shut off from that. You just couldn't keep on doing it unless you
could . pretend that it's not happening. That's what I always did. I just
shut it out."
There, however, is an important distinction between prostitution and war. In
prostitution your body is physically violated by men who revolt and disgust
you. These men, as they penetrate your body, frequently insult and beat you.
And this makes the traumas of prostitution, like rape, horrifyingly unique.
"It is difficult to describe how hollow a woman feels after she has been
used sexually by ten different men," Moran wrote. "Of course, the experience
rarely stopped at the agreed-upon hand relief or oral sex. Even when a man
has accepted that he will not be putting his penis in you, he often has no
compunction about shoving his fingers or other objects in you and mauling
you and biting you and trying to shove his tongue down your throat and
everywhere else. I know by the rabid, doglike behavior of one particular
client that he'd have liked nothing better than if he'd bit and sucked my
nipples till they gushed blood."
In the interview Moran said that there are men "who actively get off on
hurting you and watching you being hurt"-about 30 percent of her clients.
"Then you have your men who are aware, of course, that what's going on is
not right, not humane. They choose willfully to ignore that. And you have
your other men who just don't seem to have that in their minds at all. They
don't seem to understand that what's happening is not something that should
be going on. But even [so], ... those same men know they wouldn't want to
walk into a brothel and find their sister sitting on the bed. So I do
believe that there's a good deal of denial going on there."
"Prostitution is violence in and of itself," she said. ". [T]o put your
hands on another person when you know they don't want your hands there and
to put your penis into the orifices of somebody's body when you know that
they don't want your penis inside them or near them, that is pathological
behavior. And money doesn't erase that. Money does not have some kind of
magical quality that can take away the essence of a person's behavior or an
exchange between two people."
Moran rejects the concept of "sex work"-which, she says, has as its primary
qualifications "the ability to resist your urge to vomit, to cry, and to
pretend that your current reality wasn't happening."
She points to Germany and Australia, where prostitution is legal, to
illustrate that legalization only fuels the trafficking of poor women (in
those two countries most of the prostituted women are from Asia or Eastern
Europe) and the industrialization of prostitution. And legalizing
prostitution does not offer women more protection.
"In Germany you have an estimate-and I believe it's a very conservative
estimate-of 450,000 women and girls prostituting," she said. "Forty-four of
them have stepped forward to sign as registered. So here we have a situation
where the whole world believes that prostitution ought to be regulated,
legislated, and all of this, but the reality of what's happening in Germany
is only a pitiful handful of women were prepared to register and get the
benefits that go along with that, the social security and health benefits.
The bald reality is we don't want to be labeled prostitutes. Women don't
want that 'whore' stamp, as I call it, on us forever. And the illegal trade
absolutely booms anywhere where you legalize, because what happens
immediately is that demand massively increases. We've seen it in New Zealand
[and] . Australia."
She calls for prostitution to be outlawed, with the johns, pimps, brothel
owners and illicit massage parlor operators prosecuted, publicly shamed and
jailed. She believes the women who are being prostituted should be exempt
from criminal charges and offered a variety of state-run programs to enable
them to survive outside of prostitution.
"What I want to see is women in prostitution, and indeed men, boys,
everybody, be offered alternatives, real, viable alternatives," she said.
"And I'm talking about help with housing, with child care, with education,
training, with counseling, with addiction [therapy], all of the things that
women need help with in order to get them out of that situation. I'm not
advocating for let's just criminalize the pimps and the johns and [abandon]
the women."
In war, where there is a cavernous space between the all-powerful and the
utterly powerless, the prostitution and rape of girls, women and boys is an
epidemic. Armed combatants, who surrender their individualty and usually
their capacity for moral choice, become part of a herd of killers. Sex in
the culture of war is reduced to its basest animalistic function. It is
referred to in marching cadences and ribald small talk in the same way
people speak about defecation. Pornography in wartime is ubiquitous. In war,
as in prostituion, empathy, compassion and love are ruthlessly banished.
War is an assault on all systems-social, political, economic, cultural,
familial, religious and environmental-that sustain and nurture life. Human
beings in wartime become objects to destroy or to be used for gratification,
or both. The hypermasculine barbarity of war, which dehumanizes the other,
is mirrored in the hypermasculine barbarity of prostitution. America's
glorification of male violence and cultural acceptance of sexual
gratification at the expense of another, along with the lust to dominate,
humiliate and destroy those who are different from us, have made us callous
and cruel. It has rendered us incapable of compassion. It has created a
soulless society where the exploitation of the weak and the vulnerable,
along with the persecution of the "stranger," defines our national
character.
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Prostitution: Being Raped for a Living
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Posted on Oct 25, 2015
By Chris Hedges
Rachel Moran, author of "Paid For: My Journey Through Prostitution,"
discusses her book and experience as a former prostitute in an interview
with Truthdig columnist Chris Hedges for "Days of Revolt" on teleSUR
English. (teleSUR English via therealnews.com)
This column includes material from Chris Hedges' interview of Rachel Moran
on teleSUR's "Days of Revolt," presented via therealnews.com. Prostitution
abolition activist Moran is a former prostitute and a writer, blogger and
founding member of SPACE International, an organization for survivors of
prostitution. To see a video of the interview and to read a text of the
exchange, click here.
BALTIMORE-The reduction of another human being to an object and the
glorification of male violence, whether in war or prostitution, are
romanticized by popular culture. It is difficult to challenge the lies
disseminated about "sex work" and "military virtues." Those who counter the
dominant narrative, even if they speak from long personal experience, are
drowned out. Speaking the truth about war or the truth about prostitution is
lonely and often futile.
Rachel Moran, who was a prostituted woman in Ireland for seven years, has
done in her book "Paid For: My Journey Through Prostitution" what I
attempted to do in my book "War Is a Force That Gives Us Meaning," about the
reality of war. And she has endured very similar responses. Women and girls
who are being prostituted-like war correspondents and soldiers addicted to
the rush of battle, the hypermasculinity and the adrenaline highs that come
with war-have often dismissed her, unable to examine the darkness and
tragedy of their own lives. Mass culture has largely shut out her and others
who speak the truth about prostitution, just as it shuts out those who speak
the truth about war. The manufactured illusion of heroes or glamorous call
girls plays to a culture that celebrates the commodification of human
beings. Those who have escaped the clutches of prostitution or war, often
struggling to cope with trauma, guilt and shame, are reticent to resurrect
in public the nightmare that will hound them for the rest of their lives.
"People who depict prostitution as glamorous usually view prostitutes
against the backdrop of expensive hotel foyers," Moran wrote in her book.
"They imagine prostitutes as entering or leaving five-star hotels, wearing
sharp designer suits and high heels, and the look set off with vivid red
lipstick. I've walked into more hotels more times than I could count,
wearing sharp suits, high heels, and every shade of lipstick. None of that
changed what was going on in my heart or in my mind, and none of it made any
difference to the bodily experience involved here. None of it was of any
practical benefit to my mouth, breasts, or vagina. What was going on was the
very same thing that was going on when I was lifting my skirt in the
backstreet alley. The nature of prostitution does not change with its
surrounds. It does not morph into something else because your ass is rubbing
against white linen as opposed to roughed concrete."
When we spoke in Baltimore she told me, "The reality is, if I had a gun to
my head right now and the life of someone I really loved was hanging in the
balance and I had ... to go back into prostitution for one more day, there's
only one place I would go, and that would be the streets. In street-based
prostitution, you have some level of control-not much, but some. You can
gauge by the look in a person's eye, which is actually the best place you
can look if you want to know whether somebody has the intention to hurt you,
whether you're getting any kind of, as we say in Ireland, bogie vibes. If a
man has it in them to want to cause you extreme harm, you can gauge all that
by the physical nature of being close to them and looking them in the face.
You can't use your faculties in that same way down a phone line. You can't
assess a man in indoor prostitution, regardless whether it's in a brothel or
massage parlor or a hotel room. You can't do that until you're alone with
them in the room. And what people don't understand is that that places you
in a much-obviously, I would have thought-more dangerous situation. And
studies have shown that [in] indoor prostitution . violence occurs more
frequently. And that was my experience."
She blasts the notion that prostitution is in any way a form of sex. "The
nature of sex is mutuality," she said. "And where you don't have mutuality,
you have sexual abuse."
Moran preferred catering to those with fetishes and "sexual perversions" to
escape "being raped for a living" by heterosexual men.
Some men "wanted to dress up as women or as puppy dogs-believe me, that
happens," she said. "I had a regular client [who wanted to be a poodle, and
I] used to walk him around the apartment. There was a whole array of men
with the most bizarre turn-ons. And I used to deal with those men. I found
it so much easier than dealing with men who wanted to just use my body like
it was ... a kind of blowup doll that they'd bought out of a sex shop."
The war industry, like the prostitution industry, feeds off the despair,
poverty and hopelessness that afflict the lives of many of the young,
especially young men and women of color. In a world of closed doors and few
opportunities, the military, like prostitution, appears to offer a way out.
Military recruiters are little more than uniformed human traffickers,
targeting the vulnerable, making promises that are usually never kept and
handing out cash payments to the desperate. Once they have their prey
trapped, like all pimps and traffickers, they force them into a life that
bears no resemblace to the fantasy they peddled.
"That was a very, very painful book to write," Moran said of "Paid For: My
Journey Through Prostitution," "because it necessitated my having to revisit
all of those painful places with no armor and look at what it was that
happened to us and why."
Moran, like many other girls and women forced into prostituion, was
desperate and homeless. Her home life, dominated by mentally unstable
parents who raised her and her siblings in crippling poverty, had been a
disaster. And the state, preoccupied with imposing austerity and budget
cuts, had abandoned her. She started working the streets when she was a
child of 15. And she soon discovered that announcing her age to her clients
was useful because "they get off faster and I got out of the car faster."
"I was in indoor prostitution for quite a few years, and for every 10 times
that phone rang, eight or nine times you would be asked, 'How old is the
youngest girl on today?' It was always that, the youngest girl, the youngest
girl, the youngest girl. Never stopped. And it was a particularly creepy
question to have to listen to, because I usually was the youngest girl. So
it was me they were talking about," she said.
"I have never seen anyone come to prostitution out of a circumstance that
wasn't in some way, shape, or form negative," she told me.
She scoffs at the idea that prostitution offers girls and women a "choice,"
since as she wrote "it is others who use the bodies of prostituted women as
they so choose. That is the intention and the purpose and the function of
prostitution." Prostituted women have no real freedom of choice, and even
less control over their bodies than do Marine Corps recruits on Parris
Island. Once you sign on for war or prostitution you become someone else's
property. Fear becomes your dominant emotion. "If anything is more pervasive
than violence itself it is the threat of it," Moran writes of being
prostituted. To endure war or prostitution it is better not to think or
feel. Spend long enough in war or prostitution and you will, as Moran and I
eventually did, become numb, dominated by paranoia and deeply distrustful.
You lash out, sometimes physically, at whatever or whomever you perceive to
be a threat. You become a hunted animal. You divide the world between
predators and prey.
"You have to dissociate," Moran said. "You have to split yourself off from
the reality of what's currently happening. If you are having your body used
by- ... it was up to 10 men a day when I was on the streets-you've got to be
able to shut off from that. You just couldn't keep on doing it unless you
could . pretend that it's not happening. That's what I always did. I just
shut it out."
There, however, is an important distinction between prostitution and war. In
prostitution your body is physically violated by men who revolt and disgust
you. These men, as they penetrate your body, frequently insult and beat you.
And this makes the traumas of prostitution, like rape, horrifyingly unique.
"It is difficult to describe how hollow a woman feels after she has been
used sexually by ten different men," Moran wrote. "Of course, the experience
rarely stopped at the agreed-upon hand relief or oral sex. Even when a man
has accepted that he will not be putting his penis in you, he often has no
compunction about shoving his fingers or other objects in you and mauling
you and biting you and trying to shove his tongue down your throat and
everywhere else. I know by the rabid, doglike behavior of one particular
client that he'd have liked nothing better than if he'd bit and sucked my
nipples till they gushed blood."
In the interview Moran said that there are men "who actively get off on
hurting you and watching you being hurt"-about 30 percent of her clients.
"Then you have your men who are aware, of course, that what's going on is
not right, not humane. They choose willfully to ignore that. And you have
your other men who just don't seem to have that in their minds at all. They
don't seem to understand that what's happening is not something that should
be going on. But even [so], ... those same men know they wouldn't want to
walk into a brothel and find their sister sitting on the bed. So I do
believe that there's a good deal of denial going on there."
"Prostitution is violence in and of itself," she said. ". [T]o put your
hands on another person when you know they don't want your hands there and
to put your penis into the orifices of somebody's body when you know that
they don't want your penis inside them or near them, that is pathological
behavior. And money doesn't erase that. Money does not have some kind of
magical quality that can take away the essence of a person's behavior or an
exchange between two people."
Moran rejects the concept of "sex work"-which, she says, has as its primary
qualifications "the ability to resist your urge to vomit, to cry, and to
pretend that your current reality wasn't happening."
She points to Germany and Australia, where prostitution is legal, to
illustrate that legalization only fuels the trafficking of poor women (in
those two countries most of the prostituted women are from Asia or Eastern
Europe) and the industrialization of prostitution. And legalizing
prostitution does not offer women more protection.
"In Germany you have an estimate-and I believe it's a very conservative
estimate-of 450,000 women and girls prostituting," she said. "Forty-four of
them have stepped forward to sign as registered. So here we have a situation
where the whole world believes that prostitution ought to be regulated,
legislated, and all of this, but the reality of what's happening in Germany
is only a pitiful handful of women were prepared to register and get the
benefits that go along with that, the social security and health benefits.
The bald reality is we don't want to be labeled prostitutes. Women don't
want that 'whore' stamp, as I call it, on us forever. And the illegal trade
absolutely booms anywhere where you legalize, because what happens
immediately is that demand massively increases. We've seen it in New Zealand
[and] . Australia."
She calls for prostitution to be outlawed, with the johns, pimps, brothel
owners and illicit massage parlor operators prosecuted, publicly shamed and
jailed. She believes the women who are being prostituted should be exempt
from criminal charges and offered a variety of state-run programs to enable
them to survive outside of prostitution.
"What I want to see is women in prostitution, and indeed men, boys,
everybody, be offered alternatives, real, viable alternatives," she said.
"And I'm talking about help with housing, with child care, with education,
training, with counseling, with addiction [therapy], all of the things that
women need help with in order to get them out of that situation. I'm not
advocating for let's just criminalize the pimps and the johns and [abandon]
the women."
In war, where there is a cavernous space between the all-powerful and the
utterly powerless, the prostitution and rape of girls, women and boys is an
epidemic. Armed combatants, who surrender their individualty and usually
their capacity for moral choice, become part of a herd of killers. Sex in
the culture of war is reduced to its basest animalistic function. It is
referred to in marching cadences and ribald small talk in the same way
people speak about defecation. Pornography in wartime is ubiquitous. In war,
as in prostituion, empathy, compassion and love are ruthlessly banished.
War is an assault on all systems-social, political, economic, cultural,
familial, religious and environmental-that sustain and nurture life. Human
beings in wartime become objects to destroy or to be used for gratification,
or both. The hypermasculine barbarity of war, which dehumanizes the other,
is mirrored in the hypermasculine barbarity of prostitution. America's
glorification of male violence and cultural acceptance of sexual
gratification at the expense of another, along with the lust to dominate,
humiliate and destroy those who are different from us, have made us callous
and cruel. It has rendered us incapable of compassion. It has created a
soulless society where the exploitation of the weak and the vulnerable,
along with the persecution of the "stranger," defines our national
character.
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