[opendtv] Weird bullying behavior
- From: "Manfredi, Albert E" <albert.e.manfredi@xxxxxxxxxx>
- To: <opendtv@xxxxxxxxxxxxx>
- Date: Wed, 7 Nov 2007 18:26:13 -0500
This is perfect!
http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/bully.htm
Some exerpts that are a propos:
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Bullying is persistent unwelcome behaviour, mostly using unwarranted or
invalid criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, also exclusion,
isolation, being singled out and treated differently, being shouted at,
humiliated, excessive monitoring, having verbal and written warnings
imposed, and much more.
The purpose of bullying is to hide inadequacy. ... Therefore, anyone who
chooses to bully is admitting their inadequacy, and the extent to which
a person bullies is a measure of their inadequacy. Bullies project their
inadequacy on to others:
a) to avoid facing up to their inadequacy and doing something about it;
b) to avoid accepting responsibility for their behaviour and the effect
it has on others, and,
c) to reduce their fear of being seen for what they are, namely a weak,
inadequate and often incompetent individuals, and,
d) to divert attention away from their inadequacy
[ ... ]
Bullying is obsessive and compulsive; the serial bully has to have
someone to bully and appears to be unable to survive without a current
target.
Despite the facade that such people put up, bullies have low
self-confidence and low self-esteem, and thus feel insecure. Low
self-esteem is a factor highlighted by all studies of bullying. Because
such people are inadequate and unable to fulfil the duties and
obligations of their position (but have no hesitation in accepting
salary), they fear being revealed. This fear of exposure often borders
on paranoia.
Bullies are seething with resentment, bitterness, hatred and anger, and
often have wide-ranging prejudices as a vehicle for dumping their anger
onto others. Bullies are driven by jealousy and envy. Rejection (which
cannot be assuaged) is another powerful motivator of bullying.
[ ... ]
Cyber bullying is the misuse of email systems or Internet forums etc for
sending aggressive flame mails. Serial bullies have few communication
skills (and often none), thus the impersonal nature of email makes it an
ideal tool for causing conflict. Sometimes called cyberstalking.
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Couldn't have said it better myself!
Bert
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