What a sad story, Miriam. It does make me pause and smile over my
good fortune to have such a partner for my wife.
Years back while I was directing the OTC, I convinced the agency
director to create a position for a recreation coordinator. The idea
was to help newly blind students to become involved in community
activities as one means of making contacts with potential employers.
My first coordinator did such a great job that she caught the eye of
the VR Director, and he stole her away from me. The new agency
director told me who I should hire to replace her. This was a young
partially sighted woman who had been a physical education student.
Despite my objections, she became the new activities coordinator. I
remember joining in with a group meeting she was conducting. Someone
asked her if she would marry a blind man. "No," she said without
hesitating, "I love to ride in fast cars, and I plan on finding a
husband with a fast, late model car". And she did. And it was a fast
but short marriage.
Carl Jarvis
On 3/24/18, Miriam Vieni <miriamvieni@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
That was also true of Paul Sauerland. He had been a member of an
organization of blind men in NJ who believed that blind men should marry
sighted women so they would be properly cared for. Paul was a "good
Catholic", by which I mean, an extremely rigid Catholic. He married a
partially sighted woman who had been deen teaching, I think, and may also
have attended the NY Institute for the Blind, which is a whole story unto
itself. She was attending social work school. But she, too, was a "good
Catholic" which meant that being a wife and mother came first. She left
graduate school and became Paul's helpmate and the object of his scorn when
she didn't perform properly. They had 6 children, one of whom,
unfortunately, was born deaf. Paul was unable to relate to him at all.
Anyway, someone who lived in their neighborhood, but who didn't know them,
and whom I met in another context years later, told me that Paul was known
by the children in the neighborhood as "that mean blind man". But Paul was
good at his job, politically liberal, and an active and helpful member of
the Long Island chapter of ACB. Mary was, and still is, at almost 90 years
of age, very self effacing. She has always sacrificed her comfort and her
interests for her husband and her children. She moved into the basement
apartment of her house and let her deaf son and his family live in her
entire split level house when they had no place to live because they were
unable to pay rent to another one of her sons for the apartment in his
house. The deaf son has a deaf wife and 3 children, one of whom his deaf.
Miriam
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Ah yes! Don Nolde. It was Don Nolde whom I met and found rather aloof...or
sullen. Now I shall say a dozen Hail Nolan Crabb's and an act of condition,
and ask for forgiveness.
Speaking of blind guys bossing their wives around, a fellow I had great
respect for as an innovative genius, Manuel Urena, who also bossed his
sighted wife, Pat, like she were a naughty child. A bright woman in her own
right. Still, Pat took it from him. Over the passing years I found that I
was struggling with the two sides of Manuel, and his ugly side was beginning
to overshadow his intellectual side...maybe even impact it. I've often
wondered what sort of self image Pat must have had, in order to accept the
constant put down and disregard by a husband who would never be an equal
partner.
Carl Jarvis
On 3/24/18, Miriam Vieni <miriamvieni@xxxxxxxxxxxxx> wrote:
Don Nolde was editor of Dialogue. I met him on some Evergreen trips.
He had a partially sighted wife whom he bossed around. They had a
summer home in Spearfish South Dakota and he eventually convinced the
branch of the U of South Dakota which was located there, to have a
summer session each year for blind people that was like Elderhostel
where you lived in the college dorms and attended classes given by
university professors. There were huge numbers of sighted volunteers
from the town, who helped out each day. It was quite a project. I
attended one year and learned all about western history and Indians
with trips to all sorts of places like the old fashioned western town,
can't remember its name, all set up for tourists. I didn't tour the
town, but spent that afternoon in the tavern. And then another year,
they did a trip to the national park near there. There was a history
professor who considered Harry Truman to be one of our greatest
presidents.
Miriam
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Subject: [blind-democracy] Nolan Crabb, former editor of Braille Forum
Well, I did remember correctly the fact that Nolan Crabb was editor of
the Braille Forum in the past, before Penny R. But I think I still
confused him with some other blind person...they do all look alike, don't
you know?
Jan 6, 2013 - The Braille Forum Volume LI January 2013 No. 5.
Published by the American Council of the Blind. The American Council
of the Blind strives to ...... Former "Braille Forum" editor Nolan
Crabb received the American Council of the Blind of Ohio's Ambassador
Award at the ACBO convention on Oct.
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